The Toi Et Moi is a gothic two-stone rutilated quartz engagement ring in solid 14K white gold, pairing a natural emerald-cut rutilated quartz with a natural pear-cut black onyx. Toi et moi — French for “you and me” — sets two distinct stones side by side: one clear and threaded with light, the other deep and absolute. A dark-romantic, non-traditional choice for engagements and anniversaries.
Two-stone toi et moi
Natural rutilated quartz
Natural black onyx
Gothic / alternative
Solid 14K white gold
One-of-a-kind stone
Two stones, one story
The toi et moi setting places two gemstones together on a single band, each hand-set in its own four-prong basket and angled toward the other. Here transparency meets opacity, light meets shadow — about 1.6 total carats of intentional contrast that mirrors the duality at the heart of any real partnership.
The rutilated quartz
The first stone is a natural emerald-cut rutilated quartz, about 5×7 mm and 0.8 carats — clear quartz naturally threaded with slender needle-like rutile inclusions, so no two stones are ever alike. Rutilated quartz is a variety of quartz at Mohs 7, suited to everyday wear with sensible care.
The black onyx
The second stone is a natural pear-cut black onyx, about 5×7 mm and 0.8 carats — a deep, opaque black chalcedony (a form of quartz) polished to a velvet-smooth surface. Onyx is not a diamond or a faceted transparent gem; its beauty is in its solid, absolute black. It sits at Mohs 6.5–7.
Choose your metal & karat
The Toi Et Moi is made in solid white gold or platinum — never plated or filled — so the color runs all the way through and won't wear off. Choose the option that suits you:
White gold is finished with rhodium for a bright white shine, while platinum is naturally white, denser and the ultimate heirloom metal. Our 10K vs 14K vs 18K karat guide explains the gold options. Prefer yellow or rose gold? This design can be made in either on request — contact us for a custom quote.
Specifications
| Stone 1 |
Natural rutilated quartz, emerald cut, 5×7 mm (≈ 0.8 ct) |
| Stone 2 |
Natural black onyx, pear cut, 5×7 mm (≈ 0.8 ct) |
| Total carat |
≈ 1.6 ct |
| Hardness |
Rutilated quartz Mohs 7 · onyx Mohs 6.5–7 |
| Metal |
Solid 10K, 14K, 18K white gold or platinum |
| Band width |
≈ 1.7 mm |
Sizing & care
The Toi Et Moi is made to order in full and half sizes from 3 to 11, and complimentary engraving of up to 16 characters is included. If you're unsure of your size, use our ring size guide before ordering. Both stones are quartz-family gems around Mohs 7, softer than sapphire or diamond, so clean gently with warm soapy water and a soft brush, avoid ultrasonic and steam cleaners, harsh chemicals and hard knocks, and store the ring separately to keep both surfaces pristine.
Explore more of our women's engagement rings and the full range of solid gold rings.
Every Toi Et Moi ring is handmade to order in solid metal and typically ships within 3–5 weeks, packaged in a signature ring box. Because rutilated quartz is a natural stone, each one's inclusion pattern is unique.
Frequently asked questions
What does “toi et moi” mean?
Toi et moi is French for “you and me.” The two-stone design places two gems side by side to symbolize two people coming together — a romantic choice for engagements and anniversaries.
What are the two stones?
A natural emerald-cut rutilated quartz and a natural pear-cut black onyx, each about 0.8 carats (about 1.6 total carats), set together on one band.
Are the stones natural?
Yes. Both are natural gemstones — rutilated quartz (clear quartz with natural needle-like inclusions) and black onyx (opaque black chalcedony).
Is the black onyx a diamond?
No. Black onyx is an opaque black chalcedony, a form of quartz — not a diamond or a transparent faceted gem. Its appeal is its solid, velvety black.
Why is each ring a little different?
Rutilated quartz forms with natural needle-like inclusions, and no two patterns are alike — so every ring is genuinely one-of-a-kind.
How should I care for it?
Both stones are around Mohs 7. Clean gently with warm soapy water and a soft brush, avoid ultrasonic and steam cleaners, harsh chemicals and hard knocks, and store the ring separately.
What metals can I choose?
Solid 10K, 14K or 18K white gold, or platinum, from the drop-down. Yellow or rose gold are available on request — contact us for a custom quote.
Is the metal solid or plated?
Always solid. The metal runs through the entire piece, so it will never wear off or expose a base metal underneath.
What's the difference between 10K, 14K and 18K?
Higher karats hold more pure gold but are a little softer; lower karats are harder and more affordable. See our karat comparison guide for details.
How do I find my ring size?
Use our ring size guide. The Toi Et Moi is made to order in sizes 3 to 11, including half and quarter sizes.
Is engraving included?
Yes — complimentary engraving of up to 16 characters is included. Add your text at checkout.
How long until it ships?
Each Toi Et Moi ring is handmade to order and typically ships within 3–5 weeks.
